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Difficulty having an orgasm

Problems with orgasm include:

  • never having an orgasm
  • infrequent orgasms
  • delayed orgasms
  • a reduction in the strength of orgasmic sensations.
  • painful orgasms

While some people don’t need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex, this may be a real issue for others and their partners.

Links / resources

  • Orgasms and pleasure – Brook
    Information on what an orgasm is, how it manifests in people with a penis and people with a vulva / vagina, and how it relates to other factors (such as porn, mental health, hormones, alcohol, drugs, consent, premature ejaculation, etc).
  • TED talk: The truth about faking orgasms (Karen Gurney) – YouTube
    This TED Talk is about how a lack of equal pleasure in the bedroom reflects broader gender inequalities in society. Dr Karen Gurney discusses the orgasm gap, sexual scripts, and how this may be relevant to your difficulties having an orgasm.

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